Ladies, Let him Go: A Guide to Become Fruitful and Multiply

JJ Duggard | 03.09.2020 | 0147am

If you are considering government or organic marriage, and especially children to “fortify” your relationship, rebuild trust, acquire a bonus reason to live, keep threats away, or fulfill a biological prerogative; you should definitely wait. All of these principles; trust, love, stability, absence of threat, self esteem, equal happiness, joint dependence and independence, and abstract day to day mental stability are a requirement before you even think about marriage.

Technology has made love life increasingly difficult, as a young generation of broken souls from broken homes are attempting to find easy ways to develop instantaneous bonds online. This generation is desperate to fill the holes left by prior generations, as in many cases, no stable relationships were presented to create an example in which to live by. Young women are seeking older father-like figures as a means to find guidance that they previously lacked, and simply finding men too old to care for children, or generally, care for anything but the trophy aspect of mentoring youth into their bedrooms... some are even adapting, to become the man they are looking for.

Young men are finding themselves more feminine, or worse, attracted to abusive and narcissistic women, and finding themselves chasing women who repeatedly abandon them in order to chase the parent that ran out.

It is a difficult age. We have a world full of children of self centered sex/drug addicts, and these children who are now adults, unlike the last generation, are trying to fulfill the addictive gap in them through whatever legal, risk taking behaviors they can find. These are the sons and daughters of the boomer generation. The generation that will dog us for living, when they were so indulged in the sad, demented, mentally fried aftermath of sex, drugs and rock and roll 🎸 that they failed to teach us how to live, making both us and their parents pay the price.

Self worth was not afforded to them by their free living, prideful, selfish and often narcissistic parents, so they seek it through social media, multiple sex partners, contractual validation, Grindr, and sporatic birth of bastard children, which they intend to project the childhood they never receive upon, or worse; to entrap someone they love, simply to force someone to make them feel loved. This will be covered in this article, and ladies, this is for you.

If you already have thought about organic marriage, or contracted marriage as a fix-all for your hurt, or for your damaged relationship, or even for your ego, you before all preceding relationship repairs; need to establish self worth and esteem. If your partner loves you, they will be patient in this and encouraging. If things simply do not work to each other’s intricate standards, you need to leave, live, and let live.

Never make permanent decisions for temporary problems. Take your time, live, love, and be not afraid to do both. Don’t be bashful for you may wish you hadn’t later. Don’t hide your feelings and intentions, because believe it or not, there is someone out there that can match those intentions, that you can form a faction with, someone you can entrust to delegate your belief system when you’re no longer able. You can find someone who understands you, loves you, your home, family, and everything in it within reason. Someone who can recognize your struggle, without snarking at the person it has made you.

Life is too short to stay in the past, and too unpredictable to rush your future. It may be painful to accept the idea of your lover choosing a different path then you, but if you force your lover to beholden you in eternity when there’s a chance they could find a better life, lover or fate somehow, somewhere else; you don’t really love them, you just love how they make you feel. You love how they fill the emotional holes in you, but if you loved them, you wouldn’t put them in your emotional holes, but the other three. If he wants to go, roam and explore, wish him the best. God gave us free will, hoping we would choose to love him. When we purposely or subconsciously cling, manipulate, and coerce men into eternity, we put ourselves above not only the principle of God, but of God himself.

Now go and fill the gaps in your heart, so you can have more heart to not only love him with, but most importantly, yourself. Find a higher power to hold onto and talk to in the rough patches, but put more work into your day. If you’re capable of moving at any given minute and you choose to give that minute to rest for sadness, pity, or past tense sake, that’s one less minute that you have to give love, receive love, or develop a method to love.

Be fruitful and multiply. Do both at once, multiplying does not give you fruit in a time of famine. Even in a time of wealth, it costs fruit to multiply. If you start off in this world with nothing, you’ll have twice as less to give away.

God bless.